So a dear friend of mine posted this on his timeline today. He was visibly appalled by the notice, and am beyond that right now. Am livid. How sexist. So someone is actually insinuating that women drivers WOULD need help parking their cars. What age are we living in? Although I don’t drive a car myself, this is something that am offended by, deeply. We’ve all heard our share of jokes about female driving. But when you put something like this up in a public place, you should be prepared for the amount of flak that’s going to come with it. I’m surprised no one has had that taken down yet.
This is something I’ve faced at every level of life. Chauvinism of the highest order. Condescending looks. People asking me how I ‘manage‘ to travel alone. How I ‘manage’ a job. That reminds me of the time I attended a job interview, and in the last round, just when I was about to sign the offer letter, the HR person asking me to ‘consult’ my husband before taking up the offer. Needless to say, I walked out, fuming at the ears, after giving him an earful.
And then again, our landlord in Chennai, refused to take the rent from me. Stated that I’d be better off ‘managing’ the house and letting my husband take care of financial matters. It was my earning, for ***k’s sake. Why should I back down? He would refuse to lodge any of my complaints regarding maintenance or what have you and would shut me off by saying – “Ask your husband to come, we’ll talk to him.”
So you’re basically implying that am not worth talking to, that am not capable of taking decisions regarding my own house, on my own, that you will take me in as an employee only if I have no objection from my husband.
How does one even begin to fight something like this? I’m starting by educating my daughter that every one is equal. Making a conscious effort never to have my authority undermined by patronizing jerks. And showing people that am as good as the next person, if not better.