One of my most favorite bloggers, The Mad Momma, wrote about things she learnt in the last decade, and asked what it has taught me/us.
This is going to be a long list because the last decade has been life – changing, literally.
The last decade has seen me change from a short-haired jeans clad girl into a woman, into someone who actually likes dressing up and wearing girly dresses. It has seen me evolve into someone with a better dressing sense. Someone who knows wearing jeans to a family wedding is not done. In my defense, I wore a really nice kurti with it, but still 🙂 Jayaakka, if you are reading this, it was your wedding :).
The last decade had me shift from the place I grew up in to a relatively bigger city. And then to another in an alien state. From Vizag to Hyderabad, and then back to Vizag. From Vizag to Hyderabad again, and now to Chennai. Although I miss Vizag immensely, I learnt that am more open to change now. And am willing to pack my bags and move to Timbuctoo if P wants to.
The last decade has seen me go through terrible losses, two of them which I’ll never be able to forget. But I have learnt to look back and not cry. I have learnt to relive memories and smile. And thank God for allowing me to be a part of their respective lives, even if it was for a short while.
I have learnt that I wasn’t as career-minded as I thought I would be. I have left jobs that I loved, twice and have moved to where P was, because long distance relationships are not my cup of tea. I have absolutely no regrets and neither do I blame P. In fact, I have had the opportunity to live in such different places and learn to adjust, because of him. That said, I know I cribbed about the weather and other stuff, but at the end of the day, looking back, I know there is nothing I would change about the decisions I have made.
I have learnt that I can actually cook, and have learnt to love cooking and baking. It is therapeutic for me now. When am down or have an attack of the blues, all I need to do is pick up groceries and go home and experiment to cook something new for the two people I love the most and I’ll feel better.
I have learnt that I cannot be without books. Even though I hardly have time for myself, reading is something that I have to absolutely do at least for half an hour each day. I still sometimes read myself to sleep with my glasses on. The only difference is, P takes the glasses of instead of my Dad.
I have learnt that one can fall in love, over and over again, with the same person.
And the most important of all- I’ve learnt how much it takes to be a mother. Not that I’ve been one for long. Just under three years, but still, each day I learn something new. I’ve learnt what Elisabeth Stone meant when she said ““Making the decision to have a child – It’s momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.”
I have learnt that I actually love writing. And that I love articulating what I feel, in words.
I have learnt that distance doesn’t really matter when it comes to friendships. I have had the opportunity to make lifelong friends, and the internet and the phone have helped me maintain them. I know that the handful of them I have on speed dial , will be there for me. Period. No questions asked. And that means the world to me.
And last but not the least important, I’ve learnt to love myself. 🙂
So , let me ask you , my dear readers, what have you learnt?